In
part one of this series, we examined: "Why am I NOT
in a relationship with the love of my life?" If you
missed that article, you can click
here
to read it.
In
Part 2, we'll look at why a seemingly "perfect
partnership" falls apart and how to turn such a
disappointment or pain into great personal
growth.
So,
you made your list of what you want in a guy (or
gal) and you attracted THE ONE. You just know this
is THE ONE because they seem to fulfill every
desire on your list. WOW! You didn't know you
were so powerful, did you? In fact, the
realization of just how powerful you are can make
your head spin--your vibration soars! And
"Oh, I just know this is the perfect person,"
becomes your mantra. You begin to see each other
often. You spend lots of time discussing everything
from your favorite color to foods and sharing life
experiences. Where has this person been? Why did it
take us so long to find each other? In your mind
and imagination, you can see the two of you
together forever.
And
then, it may be weeks, or months later, you are NOT
together and you wonder, "Did I do something
wrong? Is the Universe playing tricks on
me? I thought this was THE ONE. What
happened?" They found someone else. Or you discover
something about them that caused you to withdraw
from them. Maybe you just drifted apart. One thing
is true, the disappointment of this relationship
has released a tirade of self-depreciation and
reinforced the old tapes--"It might happen for
others, but it won't happen for me" and "I've
missed my one chance at true love!"
Let's
look at three reasons why a seemingly "perfect
relationship" might not last
forever:
Reason
# 1: We've changed.
The
Law of Attraction teaches us that we attract
people, opportunities, situations and things that
are in harmony with our dominant vibration. What
happens, sometimes, is that people are
harmonious for a while, and then one person makes a
decision or changes and sets themselves on a path
that no longer harmonizes with our
vibration.
Here's
a little graph to illustrate what happens when
people change vibrationally:
While
your vibrations were in sinc at first, somewhere
down the road, you begin to take different paths
and the synchronicity is not there.
Reason
# 2: My list of desires was
incomplete.
You
did not realize that some things in a relationship
are very important until the relationship ended. Do
you remember the lady who wrote to me in
part
one of this series?
She had not realized how important it is to attract
a lover who has healed from past hurts. While she
is still in love with this man, he could not remain
in the relationship, due to his fear that she would
one day leave him as his former lover had. To
protect himself, he ended the relationship with the
writer. He simply was not ready for a deep lasting
relationship. Now, this lady has "healed and ready
to commit" at the top of her list!
Reason
# 3: I am learning
Self-acceptance.
Your
Higher Self is ready for you to evolve into a more
complete self-acceptance. That's right your
Higher Self knows just how much you depend on
others for your self-esteem and so it sets the
stage for a dramatic (and often painful) situation.
This
Higher Self is the True You. The One you've shied
away from. The YOU you've avoided for so long. Your
Higher Self has a message for you and wants your
attention. It will have your attention sooner or
later. And the sooner, the easier the
lesson.
I
have a client who is being confronted with this
lesson and it is so painful to watch her struggle
with it. The GOOD NEWS is that our Higher Self
only wants our highest good and that
includes:
KNOWING
yourself
ACCEPTING
yourself
HONORING
yourself
TRUSTING
yourself
LOVING
yourself.
Once
we believe that we ARE magnificent, delicious,
marvelously designed spirits having a human
experience--that there is
NOTHING WRONG with us--that we
ARE COMPLETE--that we don't need another human
to make us whole--then we are ready for the most
delightful, deep, satisfying personal
relationships. All our desires will manifest in
many meaningful and/or intimate
relationships.
Ask
yourself:
"Am
I willing to learn more about myself so I can
accept all parts of myself?"
"Am
I willing to assign my own sense of worth or
value?"
"Do
I love and care for myself enough to 'grieve and
get over' the lost lover?"
"Can
I use this opportunity to understand myself
better?"
If
you ARE willing to grow and learn more about
yourself through a difficult loss of a
relationship, chances are you will attract someone
into your life whose vibration is in beautiful
harmony with yours.
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