Often
I receive emails asking me how to use the Law of
Attraction to attract a certain person--usually for
romatic purposes. One woman, in her 40's, wrote to
me recently and has given me permission to share
some of our correspondence with you. Perhaps you
(or someone you know) will recognize the feelings
expressed here:
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"Please
can you help me understand how to bring
back the love of my life. We only dated
for a short time but I know he is the one.
He has been hurt badly and didn't want to
end things with me but felt he had to
because he was frightened he would be hurt
again. It was a very emotional ending for
both of us.
I
love him so much that I let him go and I
respect him so I have stayed away to give
him time and space. We have been apart for
three months. In my heart I know that we
are meant to be together but even though I
was so sad and in despair I still felt
loving and kindness towards him and my
thoughts were always hopeful. And in my
longing and praying several
'co-incidences' have happened.
Not
long after we split up I started searching
the web for anything that could give me
advice about winning back the man I love
and discovered the Law of Attraction. Can you help me?"
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Sometimes a man will write to me in a similar
vein: "I'm in love with this wonderful
(or beautiful) woman. I know she is the one for me.
Our paths have crossed often. How can I get her to
notice me (or go out with me)?"
In
part one of this two-part series, we'll look at why
you are NOT in a relationship with the "love of
your dreams." In part two we'll look at what to do
when a seemingly "perfect partnership" falls apart.
I hope that while reading both you will also
understand how the Law of attraction DOES bring the
true Mr./Ms. Right your way – because it will
work!
Part
one: "Why am I NOT in a relationship with the love
of my life? What's happening here? Is the Law of
Attraction at work?" Of course it is!
The
Law of Attraction is always reflecting back to you
your vibration. Remember:
You
can know what you are vibrating by observing what
IS
showing up in your life.
When
you think you are in love with someone—and are
sure they are "the one," but cannot seem to
convince him or her or attract him or her, then
they are NOT "the one". If they were, you would
already be in a relationship with them--a natural,
mutual, harmonious relationship that both of you
equally gravitated toward.
Two
scenarios are really at play here:
You
are in love with the idea of this person being in
love with you. That someone with these physical
attributes, or character traits, or successes in
life could want to be with you is an
exhilarating idea.
What
often happens is that you meet someone who has five
(or ten) characteristics that you are looking for
in your ideal partner and you assume that he or she
is your "ideal mate." You think, "This is it! I've
found 'the one' for me for the rest of my life."
However, the attraction just doesn’t seem
mutual and you do not understand why. Didn’t
the Law of Attraction bring them to you? Well, the
real question is are they looking for someone like
you? Are you a vibrational match for this person?
Remember
that the person you are looking at may only appear
to have the qualities you desire. Underneath the
exterior clothing of beauty and success, there may
be person with entirely different goals, beliefs
and core values than yours. Even if you are very
similar, what is he or she looking for? The role of
their ideal mate may be very different from one you
would truly like to play.
The
second scenario goes like this:
You
are in love with the idea of being
“allowed” to love this person Seeing
their potential and their needs, you may also see
how “helpful” you could be for them as a
mate. Searching for love with this motive is
especially dangerous because, sadly, more often
than not there is simply an insecure, life-draining
person there, hoping to find someone to give their
life meaning and purpose. (Not a healthy thought.)
Victims attract someone who can make them a victim
again. The poor attract someone who can enable them
to continue in their poverty. The Law of Attraction
is not fooled, nor can it be manipulated through
words and expressions of desires that are not in
alignment with the truth.
But
you see so many people around you happy and in
love, why does it not come your way?
Here
is how the Law of Attraction does work, and how you
can make it work for you:
In
order to attract the "ideal partner"-- someone who
is in vibrational harmony with who you are--you
must be what you seek.
Are
you looking for someone who is kind? You must be
kind. Do you want someone with good looks? You must
care about how you look. Do you want someone who
will make a commitment to you? Ask yourself, "Do I
keep commitments?" Do you want someone who is
successful? Ask your self, "Am I vibrating
success?"
Remember,
the Law of Attraction is bringing to you exactly
what you are vibrating. If you want something
different in your life, you must change
yourself--your vibration. It's an inside job and
you can only change yourself-- you can't change
someone else's vibration.
I
referred to the second scenario as especially
dangerous for this reason exactly – you
can’t change someone else, and while trying to
do so you stop concentrating on yourself, stalling
any change and growth that may need to occur in
you.
You
CAN attract your ideal partner. You CAN find
joy in a healthy relationship. Just start with
yourself:
- KNOW
yourself
- ACCEPT
yourself
- HONOR
yourself
- TRUST
yourself
- LOVE
yourself
When
you do, the most perfect relationships happen in a
perfectly natural way.
Why?
Because your healthy relationship with yourself is
reflected in your healthy relationship with that
significant other.
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