What
do you really want in your relationships?
Security? Affection? Loyalty?
Companionship?
Communication? What?
Do
you wonder why you keep attracting certain
types of people into your life?
Are you tired of feeling disappointed in
'love?
Have you ever been 'blind-sided' by someone
you thought was a friend?
Do you feel desperate to find that special
person you can live with forever?
Here are
three steps that can help you in attracting more
satisfying relationships:
1. Make a
thorough list of all the characteristics or
scenarios of your past relationships that
you DON'T WANT to experience again. You can use
the T-toolTM
for this exercise or just take a fresh sheet of
paper and draw a large 'T' on it.
- Label the
left hand column: 'I Don't want' and the
right-hand column, 'I Do Want'
- Ask your
Inner Self to remind you of past events that
you do NOT want repeated.
- Write a
few words about each event that express
the essence of that event. For
example:
Step
2--Examine each item on the 'I DON'T want
..." side and ask yourself this
question: "If
I don't want this, what DO I want?"
Your
list will look something like this:
One
major reason why we keep attracting the
same unsatisfactory relationships is
because we fail to use the contrast
contained in those negative events to get
clear about what we
DO want.
Step
3--Write a Script about how you DO want your
relationships to be:
As long as the
Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want'
Script, it is restricted to orchestrating that
Script over and over. We must give the
Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work
with.
Scripting
accesses all four parts of the
brain.
- The left
brain which deals with words and
logic
- The right
brain which understands patterns and
symbols
- The
mid-brain which experiences
emotions
- The brain
stem which registers physical
stimulation
When we write
a Script, starting with a phrase such
as: "If I had my way...", and use our
imagination about that which feels good to us,
we are accessing our right and mid-brain.
A thought or feeling comes and we translate
it into words (using the left brain) that
symbolize the thought or
feeling (right brain again). Writing the
Script engages the body, which registers in the
brain stem.
When all
four parts of the brain are engaged, a powerful
message is delivered to the
Universe.
I like to end
my Scripts with the phrase, "And do this in ways
that are for my highest good and the highest
good of everyone involved." This is a phrase
that helps me let go of 'HOW" this will all
happen, and allows the Law of Attraction to
bring it about in the very best possible
way.
Remember,
the Law of Attraction brings us precisely
what we vibrate. So if we want to experience
relationships that are more satisfying, then
we must change our dominant vibration to
match the experiences we WANT to have.
