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Healing
Hopeless Relationships © by Rebecca Hanson &
Law of Attraction Training Center http://lawofattractiontrainingcenter.com
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"My husband and I were planning our divorce.
Now we're planning our reconciliation."
"For
years, my teenage son and I were at odds with each
other. At times he was abusive toward me. Now we
are building a great friendship based on mutual
respect and appreciation."
"My
middle daughter and I were never close. She
harbored deep (and justified) resentment toward me.
Now she phones me almost every day and shares with
me her joys and challenges as a young mom. I LOVE
our new relationship!"
"For
the first time in my life, I have a loving
relationship with myself. I am living as my
authentic self on a daily basis and it feels
good!"
What
do these four people have in common? To what do
they ALL attribute the successful healing of these
seemingly hopeless relationships? The Law of
Attraction! It's really quite amazing when you
consider that three of these testimonials came from
people who have been deliberately applying the Law
of Attraction for less than a year.
What
is it about the Law of Attraction (LOA) that
produces such a wonderful benefit in a gentle
natural way? Four aspects of LOA come to my mind as
being significant in changing the way we relate to
others: Self-appreciation which translates into
appreciation of others, looking for new
perspectives on negative events, expecting people
to respond differently to us when we have shifted
our vibration and building a community of
like-minded friends.
SELF-APPRECIATION
The Law of Attraction teaches us to discover
who we truly are-based on what we love or enjoy. As
we sort through stuff we've tolerated for years,
looking for things we enjoy-then fully appreciating
the way we ARE-we find ourselves becoming less
defensive, less judgmental, kinder, gentler and
more accepting of all that is.
I
remember when a strong creative part of me wanted
expression. Of course, after years of suppression,
this expression had to be BIG-like renovating the
main bathroom! I had devalued, depreciated and
discounted the creative aspect of my personality
for a long time and now it was reasserting itself.
I threw my whole being into that renovation,
calling upon all my creative energy, natural
talent, eye for color, design, balance and
financial resources. The result was a beautiful
bathroom-spa. The finished product was so lovely it
was used in a commercial-all because I chose to
honor my true self.
True
love and appreciation begins with
self-appreciation, self-love and self-care. We can
only love others to the degree that we love and
accept ourselves.
REFRAMING
SITUATIONS
The more we notice how our feelings attract similar
events, the more motivated we become in finding new
perspectives on events that don't feel good. I am
fully convinced that I can CHOOSE a new perspective
and in so doing, shift a negative situation into a
very healthy and positive one.
In
2003-2005, I applied for child support for my
mentally handicapped daughter. The judge denied my
request, declaring Sarah to be an adult; citing her
age, then 24, and the fact she lives on her own. My
initial reaction was one of surprise and fear
around how I could continue to support her
financially. I knew enough to be cautious about how
I continued to think about this event, so I asked
my Inner Being for the highest vibrating thoughts
on this subject. When I broke the news to Sarah
(who understood all that was going on), I told her,
"The judge said, 'No child support.'" I paused to
let that sink in; then I followed up with a
cheerful, "Congratulations! You are now legally an
adult!" A few days later, Sarah was signing up for
a bowling league and when she was asked her age,
she was told, "You have to sign up with the adult
league. You're too old for the junior league." She
smiled at me and said, "I really AM an adult!" It
was a milestone for both of us.
As
we grow in cooperation with the Law of Attraction
we learn how to reframe negative situations faster
and more easily. After a while it becomes second
nature to reframe something that doesn't feel good.
In this way, we practice kindness toward ourselves
and others. Resentment and bitterness are not
allowed to contaminate our vibration.
EXPECTING
GOOD RESPONSES
Eventually we begin to trust that when we meet
someone with our highest vibration and expect them
to respond harmoniously, they DO!
While
we cannot 'make' anyone respond to us in ways that
feel good to us, we can offer them the opportunity
to make a good response. If we are looking for the
good in them-looking for their very best and
kindest response-they will find it easier to show
us that side of their personality. It's like our
high vibration calls forth the best in the other
person.
Are
you ready? Are you really ready for a new way of
living that is full of love, acceptance and grace?
The Certified LOA Coach-Trainer Program prepares
you for a joyful and fulfilling career based on
what you love to do, and it can transform areas of
your life you thought were 'hopeless.'
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